Even without knowing anything about you or your family I can absolutely guarantee that had you had better preventive dental care you would not be in situation you are in and that goes for your entire family. You probably never thought about it, but your dentist probably only treats the symptoms of dental disease and not the CAUSE.  Today there is effective antibacterial technology that treats the cause utilizing improved oral hygiene techniques, the antibacterial product Therasol, and the use of a Phase microscope by your dentist and hygienist to monitor and ensure that you eliminate the bacteria that cause dental disease.  You might search online for a dentist in your area who offers this or look up and call Oratec a company totally dedicated to Preventive Dentistry and oral health.  I am sure they can give you the name of a dentist in your area who uses this highly effective technology.